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No that is very funny
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We can label people all day long. Which is often the case here. It's the meeting someone in person to see if their actions speak louder than their words that we haven't quite grasped the concept of. Using more than all the road!
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I said this on a different post somewhere. I don't put much emphasis on the terms, bad boy/ nice girl..which ever way it's designated. Think they are small words used to describe a larger picture. You can be nice, without being a doormat. You can be bad, while still being respectful and polite. Some I'm sure would describe me as nice. Some as a wild child. I'm sure none would describe me as boring. Honestly, all of it really boils down to the different perspectives. A prim and proper lady, who never even had a overdue library book, might just perceive a guy who gets speeding tickets, drinks more than one beer at a time, and regularly uses the words damn and hell, as a bad boy. Meanwhile the hardcore dominatrix, might perceive the same guy as a boring, nice guy. It's all perspective and labeling in my book. Not saying you're wrong, as many posts on here seem to follow that same thought pattern. Maybe it's true that I just see things, interpret things differently than most. But it does help me avoid being labeled. I'm just me. " I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
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Nice, good, bad, or naughty, I've found it all boils down to the magical chemistry. I've been bumped to the curb twice now... not because I was too nice, or too good a man, but because that sizzle that the woman wanted just wasn't there for them. On paper I may be a the dream guy, but it still comes down to that electricity between two people. Thoughts from the Garden...
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I want only nice. If he is boring, I can deal with it if, as Gardenboy says, the chemistry and attraction is there.
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I really like this! I can testify to being the "nice guy" only to feel the unrequited love later. That stems from my wanting to please others and to avoid the sense of possible rejection. What you say makes a lot of sense. I can totally feel what you mean by "If you have a full social life going on, someone will find that appealing..." This is something I'm currently working on for myself! Well, not social life, but I am working on doing my own thing and enjoying what I do. Thank you! You hit the nail on the head for me.
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