My Blog
Welcome to my blog!
Keywords | Title View | Refer to a Friend |
What I've Learned...
Posted:Oct 6, 2018 9:04 am
Last Updated:Apr 24, 2019 4:27 pm

Since I've been on this site I've learned a lot. About people, about perality type, and about mistakes that weren't really meant to be seen as mistakes. I just try to move on because that actually gets me somewhere interesting.

I've learned not to offer things like too much emotion, too much concern, too much hospitality, or too much skin right away.

Now the men are going, Too much skin? Is that even a thing? Lol Yes, I found out that some people like the slow reveal. The tease. And I do love to tease.

The rest...

Well I ran across someone I thought would make a good steady playmate, at least for sex needs. He had been frustrated that his approach on the site wasn't getting him very far with me the last few months. The biggest problem was that he often worked in other states, didn't live here. We all know that my profile is clear about my preference for local. I like to have at least some weekly fun. Hard to do that with someone who lives elsewhere. Meeting new people all the time can be exhausting, and I'd rather just get to the sex fun.

One day we were chatting online and he asked when he was going to get to meet me. I asked if he were in town for the weekend. He said he lives here now. Oh. Ok, good information. Lol Men don't always think to mention these little things.

We set up a time to meet. Went well. We ended up having 3 fun play dates. Seriously fun. Here is where I think the problem began. I was too open, too friendly, and I fed him a sandwich. Most of you would be thinking, 'WTH is wrong with that? I'd love a sandwich?'

Have you ever seen that meme that says something like, 'Boss walks into work and first thing he says to me is, “Good Morning!”

I'm like, “You need to calm the fuck down!”

Yup overreacted to some simple courtesy. That's what I think happened here. I was being myself. Tsk tsk tsk. I can be kind and generous to a lover. It's my nature. Just as being naughty is my nature.

I also recall he had asked me on our first or second date how much I liked Boise. I said I love Boise but it's becoming less enjoyable all the time. Then he asked me if I ever thought about buying a hunk of land somewhere like Oregon. I said, Sure, my family is actually thinking of heading that direction at some point so they can afford to buy a house. It's a lovely area.

I mean, I don't want to sound paranoid, but was he 'baiting' me? Trying to find out where my head was? Who does that so early on? And he'd mentioned a bad ex at some point, but didn't go into detail. We all have baggage, but I've managed mine; I don't beat someone up with it after we meet. And I'm not being 'sensitive' about this issue. I've been analyzing it for almost 2 yrs now.

Here's the thing guys...not everyone is out to 'trap' you!! Calm the fuck down. Lol

Would this guy have even been a good candidate as my 'per' had I been interested in that? No actually. A fun playmate, but he worked way too many hours and was complete crap at communicating. But the younger guys often are. At this age I do look for people who can go and do things. FWB! Have dinner, maybe hot tub or jeeze have a damn drink on a patio on a warm summer night. Oh or go have fun at the Adam and Eve store and then come back here for fun sex.

Did that once. Loved that, it was so hot. 'That' FWB was a fun playmate. Sadly he had to move away, but I continue to hope that I'll find another. And no, I was not out to trap the man. I just wanted to have steady fun with someone I could trust. Harder to find than you'd think.

I saw this meme on FB that I still laugh over since men seem to think they are such a hot item I'll want to put a ring on it. Um. Nope. Way past that kind of thing. The meme went something like:

I only made you breakfast in bed and got comfortable, no need for all of this “how did you get in my house” bull!

LOL I probably got it wrong and stalking isn't a joke. Had a couple of online stalkers last year. But you get my point.

And yes, after our 3rd fun play date this 'new to ID' guy disappeared. Firstly that's just rude. Manners count, even if it's on exit. Can't really go off on him anyway. I'm sure he deleted my text inquiries. Shrug. His loss actually. We'd only really gotten started. There is a whole wide variety of fun sex antics I have running around in my big imagination. And I'm happy to share those with the right playmate. It's about enjoyment. Not about 'trapping' someone.

So guys, calm the fuck down and enjoy a damn sandwich. It's not about putting a ring on it.

3 Comments , 1 Pending
Give A Girl A Damn Minute
Posted:Aug 24, 2018 3:01 am
Last Updated:Oct 12, 2018 2:54 am
So you know that per you just flirted with and then sent an email to but they won't respond even though they are clearly online? They probably aren't online. They just didn't log out. Don't freak out. They probably weren't 'cock surfing' and ignoring you entirely (lmao).

This happened recently and is one of the reas I don't meet someone the same week they approach me. I'm working all day and probably wiped out by 6p, so go easy. Also some people are just not quite right and it's best to just avoid making a mistake with them.

So I was approached by a guy who has a face pic on his profile so I didn't need to go searching or ask for him to send me one. Decent looking guy and if that were what does it for me I still wouldn't have replied more than the initial email that day. Why? Because life happens and I was busy working my flirtatious ass off for a living. So by the time I was home for the day I wasn't thinking, 'Ah I better email absolutely everyone so they don't think I'm ignoring them'. Nope. I was thinking, 'Get out of these damn clothes, take care of the dog, get that beverage and get in the shower so I can relax before bed.' Yup. That includes zero online time as a rule. I get up very early to workout. I didn't think it required an explanation to this guy.

After that he sends me another email, I reply to emails in the morning if there's time, and he said (I'm not ding), “I'd love to rock your world.” Yup. Sigh. And then, “Hello?” Which told me several things about him actually. Clearly had not read my profile, and it's not even that long, or what came next wouldn't have come at all. Is he not very intelligent? Can't come up with a better one liner to keep my interest? No idea because before I could respond he sent another short email. And when I didn't respond to that one right away because I was...oh I don't know, busy dealing with the other emails and arranging dates with nice men with manners, he sent me another one saying something rude like, “Have fun dealing with all of the asshats.” Or some such nugget of inspiring well wishing. SIGH.

I didn't respond that day because it didn't really require an explanation or response, and I've learned that responding when my Italian side is “Up” is ill advised. A couple of days later I was going to send him a request to give people a damn minute to respond (not me of course, I was done) and then I'd block him, but I could see he'd already blocked me. Oh joy, rapture. He'd saved me some time so I could email others. Next.

So I've learned over the last year of dating (yes actual dates too) that a certain type of per will give themselves away in words. The perality starts coming out to play and I find out exactly who I'm dealing with. I have to like something about a per before I'll even meet them. If it's not your form or great eyes and lips, it had better be your perality! Which is actually the more important part since spending time together makes it so much more fun than just a sexy bod. Not that your time in the gym goes unnoticed.

And I know I've said it before. I put almost everyone through a 'get to know each other' stage before meeting for a drink or steamy ice tea , and the rea why is clear now. I don't want to spend a bunch of time and makeup (or really yummy cologne and cleavage) on a per that ends up annoying the crud out of me. Why bother? There are other new friends I'd rather be snuggling up to.

Since I analyze everything it means I try to read between the lines. People can mask who they are up to a point, but given enough time and key phrases of encouragement, they give themselves away almost every time.

So be careful out there and play safe always!

Is Sex Just Physical?
Posted:May 28, 2018 9:18 am
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2019 2:27 pm
Most people would probably say yes, unless they are emotionally committed to the per they are intimate with.

The rest of us? Well there are probably different degrees of connection. I've been told off and on that a guy likes an intellectual connection. That the brain is a sexy machine. I agree. Is it the end all be all for me? Hmmm not in a playmate, although good conversation is a plus. After all, if you aren't having sex non-stop you may want to be able to have a decent conversation. If you decide to be actual friends who do other things together outside of the bedroom, it's more important.

My connection is made in several ways. The physical, certainly. Touch means a great deal to me. If someone doesn't want to actually touch me, I'm pretty turned off by that. In other words, if a partner only pays attention to two sections of the female body. Women are so much more than that. I'm more than that. Although admittedly a D cup can be hard to ignore. I get the appeal.

For instance, I am sensitive from my toes to my eye lids. Literally almost every inch of me. A slight sc of nails, or a light caress of fingers and I'm going to laugh a little and wiggle a lot. That so much of the human body is ignored during sex just frustrates me. That's what multiple play dates with the same per are for. You learn each other. You get to know the mind and the body. What turns a partner on one day may not do it the next day so you explore, you tease and test. That's enjoyable to me.

I do enjoy a good mental connection as well. Is it necessary? For decent fun sex? No. My brain switches off the more excited I get. It's a very peaceful and fulfilling time for me. But I will say that an intelligent playmate will probably be more successful at reading my signals and have more of an interest in exploring.

Is it really chemistry? Hmmm, I'm not sure. Plenty of science says yes. A lot of people say yes. For me it's about attraction. Not just the physical but the perality. Trust me, if I don't like a perality it's not going to happen no matter how good looking a per is. Which is why I get to know someone a bit before I meet them. Plus it's a bit safer that way. Know who you are inviting in.

Have you ever heard that expression 'Ugly to the bone'? I've met some people like that. One decent looking guy can turn ugly in just a few sentences or actions. Same with women probably, I just haven't met that many.

I think in the end sex gives each of us something we need or want. So many attached men just aren't getting their needs met. Married women as well. The attention and physical portions of it. Touch and feeling wanted.

I enjoy creating a space of place and time that is made for pure enjoyment. Free of responsibilities and worry. For that time there is literally nothing to worry about. Turn the phones on mute and just sink into the beauty and fulfillment of sex. Who couldn't use a couple hours of that? Since I enjoy touching and being touched I enjoy 'petting' or touching my partner during, between, and after sex. It's gives me something...a feeling of well being. It also pleases my partner very much.

So, need to relax, d-stress, and just sink into sex?

2 Comments , 1 Pending
Playlist Etiquette
Posted:Apr 19, 2018 4:38 pm
Last Updated:Jun 14, 2019 2:20 pm
I've blogged about this before, but I think it was mixed with other thoughts so here is a short list of what gets you kicked off the playlist permanently:

1. Showing up drunk

Men can be mannerless when drunk and I could get hurt, so no. If you think you're more charming when drunk, you are probably the only one who thinks that.

2. Standing me up

This happened once. You know that saying, 'You'd better be in the hospital, Mr!' He ended up in the hospital, but he made it up to me

3. Lousy hygiene

Nope it hasn't happened yet but if I soap twice, so can you. And a yummy aftershave or cologne is a nice touch, but just like you don't want me to overdo my shouldn't either.

4. Being flaky

Guys if you say you want to play on a specific night and then don't get back to me about the details regarding time etc...look, a girl likes to know she can count on her orgasm. If you aren't going to supply that, I'd prefer to know in advance so I can schedule someone who can show up. No offense to the younger guys, but some of them are kinda flaky that way.

In the end it's really about manners. I know a lot of men are probably going, What? It's not just about sex? Lol No, it's not. I'd like to enjoy the experience, not be thinking, 'The least he could have done was worn deodorant.' Shrug. Most men I've met, whether it's a steamy coffee date, steamy lunch date, or steamy drink date have been pretty good about smelling nice. Here's a tip, a nice cologne or aftershave acts as an aphrodisiac for some of us. Work with the tools you have.

The Natural Flirt...
Posted:Feb 18, 2018 2:04 pm
Last Updated:Aug 27, 2018 3:11 am
Some of you may watch someone who seems to flirt with such ease and you find yourself wondering how they do that? How they seem to flirt like they breathe. This is a Natural Flirt.

We were born with this knowledge and have been doing it since we got a first smile in response to something we did as a baby or a .

To me it's like an exchange of energy. You've heard of sexual energy. That one night you walk into a nightclub or bar and everyone just seems so dang sexy. The energy that is released is there for the taking. That's sort of what I get from flirting. It's not always a sexual thing, sometimes it's just a friendly thing. Like, “I'm here to make you smile, and in exchange I get to feel the 'happy' that comes off of you.” It's an exchange.

I know a lot of people have probably never analyzed it or given it much thought, but after the weekend I had in Vegas a few months ago at the swinger's club, I couldn't help but think about it. I received so much energy in exchange on Halloween Party night that I drank a half bottle of rum and did not wake up with any ill effects at all. That in itself was a kind of amazing thing. And I didn't feel drunk at the party, and on that much rum I really should have. I'm not a big drinker.

The exchange of energy that night was so intense it just burned all the alcohol off as fast as I could drink it. And I only danced twice. So it wasn't the dancing. Perhaps it was all the damn Flirting!!

Yes, I'm a natural flirt. It gives me and the per I flirt with, something we can feel. And you ask yourself, how is that not a sexual thing? It really isn't most of the time or I'd be in trouble always. Seriously.

Ask yourself...Who couldn't use a happy moment in their day? I'm an equal opportunity flirt. I'll literally flirt with just about anyone. It makes them feel good and I get to feed off of that feeling. It's like soaking in Joy. Not huge joy, but small doses are still good. It's a boost.

There was a time when I could flirt at work. Even the delivery men were not safe. Then we merged offices with sales and most of those are married men. Sigh. You know how it is now. People can take a casual flirt the wrong way. A female coworker asked me about it once.

She said, “How do you not get in trouble all the time with the way you flirt?” I said, “Because I don't always flirt with intention.”

She wanted to know what I meant so I showed her because it was way more fun than telling her.

I smiled at her and said, “I love that jewelry you're wearing today.”

She smiled back and thanked me.

Then I adjusted my smile until it made my eyes sparkle with a bit of mischief and laying my hand lightly on her arm I said, “I really love that top you're wearing. Is it new?”

She simply said, “Wow. Just wow.” Yup. It's the difference of intention. The first is harmless and no other meaning behind it but to make you smile back. The 2nd was clearly full of meaning and it was geared to gain me something I wanted. I think it made her a bit warm. Lol Gotta love that about women. And about flirting.

I'll admit that sometimes I just like to do it to get a reaction out of someone. When I'm in one of those moods I really love doing it to someone who may not like me all that much, but can't help but respond. Lol It's just so damn fun!

Thanks for Reading
Reas Why...
Posted:Aug 2, 2017 3:15 am
Last Updated:Sep 13, 2017 3:53 am
I've discovered that people do some very curious things. How many of us go somewhere for a particular purpose and find ourselves 'people watching' out of sheer curiosity? One of my favorite places, if I'm already going there for good rea, is the airport.

I like to watch and try to guess the rea for people's visit to my city. Business? Easy. It's how they dress and the lighter luggage as a rule. They tend to walk with a purpose. Other reas are more fun to make up. An affair perhaps? Maybe coming to meet someone like me for the first time? A wild weekend before getting married maybe? In Boise? Lol Sure, I've seen that. We have a bar here that used to be a famous hot spot for such things. It's changed, but in a good way.

So people watching has probably been an activity since the dawn of time. People are curious beings and tend to do odd things. Like having two profiles. Some potential friends on this profile made mention of a 2nd profile for me. Curious. Why would someone do that?

I've noticed some of the men have done the same thing, although I suspect their reas are quite different from mine. They are probably looking for volume. I'm looking for quality over quantity.

Some of my blog readers have seen blogs from me regarding dominance play in the bedroom. Well a beautiful Italian Dominant was politely persistent in communicating with me and I decided to try his idea. He wanted to create a 'couples' profile. I was a bit skeptical as I am regarding most things men come up with but decided that some of his reas had merit.

And no, I'm not actually married. Anyone who thinks I'm on here to cheat or to be a slutty wife...not true. I'm simply trying something new. I have a curious mind. Let's call it an experiment. I've been interested to see which profile will see more activity. So far....I'm not telling. Lol

Thanks for reading!
Am I Real, or Fake?
Posted:Jul 26, 2017 3:17 am
Last Updated:Jul 29, 2017 8:20 pm

Do I trust every stranger I want to meet or every stranger that is interested in meeting me? No, I don't. I want to. It's my true nature to want to believe most people mean me no harm. That they are being honest. In this new dating world I no longer have that luxury. In the past few weeks I have learned more about the nature of man than I ever cared to know. And believe me, it has not furthered his cause from my side of things.

I would have happily gone about my sappy naive way had it not been for my interest in dating. Coming in contact, even virtual, opens us up to not only new experiences but some bad elements as well. Can't be helped. People will try to scam you, take advantage and use you, if you allow it. Not all people, but a lot more than there used to be thanks to technology making it easier to reach out from every corner of the planet, or close enough.

I realize after doing some research on the subject that most online scammers aren't even in this country. Yikes. It does make them easier to spot due to the bad sentence structure and broken English. I've never been so bombarded with bullshit in my entire life! I understand that quite a few men run into the same problem on this and other sites. Bots trying to catch your attention for whatever rea. It's buyer beware when it comes to looking at profiles. It's up to us as free thinking humans to spot the fakes from the real deal.

This explains some of the emails I get on this site. One poor bastard thought I was fake and went off on me in a lengthy email. I politely asked him to go away. I told him that I don't date bad mannered men, and when he refused I blocked him. Sadly this site only offers a partial block so that creeper can still look at my profile. Nothing I can do about that. Sad for this guy that he came upon me having an Italian Bitch Fit due to all the scammers I've run into. Don't go away mad, just go away! Actually mad is fine too. Lol I'm a button pusher!

One of the fake profiles on another site wouldn't leave well enough alone so I toyed with him for a while, strung him/them along for my own amusement. Yes, I do that if I'm just royally fed up! I asked for outrageous things and received many really fun promises. He promised love and devotion and faithfulness. I guess all the things someone from another country might think a woman my age would be looking for. Then one day he asked me when I was going to bring him home to meet me. He was posing as a deployed American soldier in another country so contact was sketchy at best and I would of course not get to speak with him on the phone. Uh huh. I said, “Oh baby I'd love to do that soon, but I don't know what is required.” Yes, I'm very good at role playing. Most Cancer people are. Lol He said he needed some information and we could get started. About that time I'd had my fill so I instead sent him a link I found that warns women of this Deployed Soldier Scam. He replied, “What? You call me a lie?” I said, “No sweet pea, I'm calling you a damn liar. And your English...not so good my friend. But this has been mildly entertaining so when you get back to the states, look me up!” He replied, “Okay.” And went away. Too bad really because the photo he/they were using? YUMMY. Disappointing. I thought we were in LOVE!

Anyway I'm pressing onward but cautiously. I had to turn in 5 fake profiles in one week from that site. Yikes. I ended up shutting it down as it no longer served me well, and I kept the ones that do. If I were easily discouraged I probably would have stopped dating entirely, but that's not my nature.

What's funny is his/their perceptions of an American woman my age. They were assuming several things. That I was a lonely old spinster who had been cheated on and who had money to burn. Lol So very wrong on every point!

Being alone isn't even the worst thing I've done to myself this life. And it's never going to be a big bad thing for me. Alone time is great and I do have people. I just don't have my 'per'...yet. What will some guys ask themselves? Is Wicker110 Fake, or Real? I know my profile is extra alluring people, but I will always be very very real with everyone for better or worse.

Stay tuned for more fun adventures I'll post. I'm sure something else interesting will happen, it always does and I usually have something to say about it.

Thanks for reading....

It's Just Sex, Right?
Posted:Jun 23, 2017 3:43 am
Last Updated:May 7, 2018 3:00 am
Well yes and no. I had another married guy approach me and I had to tell him what I told the last one...protect what you want to keep. Cherish what you have.

It's simple really. Do you enjoy your family? Do you want to keep your current situation, your family pod whole? Protect and keep it.

Life throws enough surprises at us that we don't really need to go looking for them like an Easter egg hunt; hoping that each new egg would bring us peace, bring us fulfillment.

As I told him, it's just sex, it won't actually fix anything. But I get it. We all have needs, and a lot of us love that slow glide of skin, that lovely caress of flesh. It fills a void, makes us feel...something. Wanted.

I spent quite a bit of my adulthood in search of something I didn't know how to define. And I knew it wasn't just love I craved because I found that at least once. Then recently I came upon a naughty male nurse who helped me figure out the elusive unicorn mystery. Dominance play.

I'll admit that in the beginning I was a bit frantic about it. I wanted. I needed. All...the...time. I didn't take on every guy who promised dominance play though.

You might be thinking, 'Why not?' I mean I'm single and I can do as I choose. So why not just mess around with everyone?

Because I protect what I have. I keep what I love. I am choosy about who I invite into my life, even if it's just a hopeful playmate, I don't invite everyone in.

As I've learned, actions have consequences. Yes I'd love to just let go and enjoy the heck out of everyone who offers me what I'm looking for, but I do know better. I've run into consequences before. I'm not sure but that one may be called Karma.

So before you decide that sex is exactly what you need, ask yourself one thing. Does Karma have your address?

Thanks for reading!
What's In A Word?
Posted:Jun 16, 2017 3:23 am
Last Updated:Jun 20, 2017 3:44 am
Does one word really matter that much? Absolutely! I'll give you a small, but important example.

A guy on this site who is in his 30's had sent me a very brief hello email. At first glance he appeared somewhat interesting and although I don't usually respond to men who don't also include a photo, I sent a reply hello back to him because he was at least local and appeared single. I'm finding this combination is hard to come by these days.

His next email, for reas only he can know, stated that he would make me his ''.

Um...No. Not only no, but hell no.

Guys seriously. I know that in the BDSM world it may be perfectly acceptable to use the 'W' word and the 'S' word and a few other demeaning terms when referring to a potential playmate, but it's polite to ask first.

It may be a generational thing, but I've had a guy in his 40's do it too. His case was slightly different. He and I had gotten to know each other first. I made sure to make it known that I was not interested in being demeaned or humiliated in any way. It doesn't turn me on, it shuts me down. Since that wasn't what he wanted he politely apologized and then asked if he could please use the term 'slut'.

I laughingly replied that since I sometimes do slutty things that yes, he could use it, but only as a term of affection and he'd better be smiling when he uses it!

He sometimes calls me his Precious Little Slut. Another playmate I'm very fond of calls me his Little Pantyhose Slut, but with a great deal of affection and we'd played a few times before he asked me if he could use that term. Very polite, very respectful.

I find that most men from 40's age group and up are like that. They ask first.

The younger set may say I'm being old fashioned. Well sure but I was raised to also be a lady in most circumstances so yes, I do want that respect. It starts things off on the right foot if I'm asked first. I'm sure a lot of women in my age group feel the same way. Maybe most women in all age groups do.

Polite respect gets you so much further than rude assumption. Figure it out!
Did you view my profile...or not?
Posted:May 26, 2017 3:59 am
Last Updated:Jun 9, 2017 3:15 am
A quick word on how this site works. If I have it right the little thumbnail pics along the right side of the screen are sort of random choices of who may have viewed your profile. I believe it is a selection the site makes based on your cupid preferences.

The only way to be sure if someone viewed your profile for sure is to go into My Stuff and then Viewed Me.

I seem to be showing up on a few radars as having viewed profiles when I know I haven't had the energy this week to view that many profiles.

One of my new 'friends' mentioned that I keep viewing his profile and I was a little hard on his ego when I explained how the site works. lol He was a very good sport about it though. I do love a guy with a healthy sense of humor.

So guys, you can ask if I've been stalking your profile and you may get a response that's a bit hard on the ego because I'm honest in my responses, but I don't mind if you just want to send me an email asking how I'm doing. Cancer women do love the attention.

My First Swingers Meet & Greet
Posted:May 16, 2017 3:35 am
Last Updated:Jul 10, 2017 2:52 am
I'll be honest and say I had no idea what to expect at my first Swingers Mixer. Yes I expected people of like mind to be there and probably drinking and talking etc. What I guess I didn't expect was how many people were hiding what they wanted. I get more action on a dance floor at any club.

Part of my problem with this is that I didn't know who I should approach. If most are hiding what they want and trying to appear as though they are just out for a drink and conversation with friends, what exactly is allowed? The rules stated were 'Don't 'out' the people in the group to the public'. Seemed simple enough.

I found out that hugs are allowed. Hugs and conversation. I will admit that I was a little disappointed. Don't get me wrong. I didn't expect people to be making out on the tables, or groping each other in the dark corners, but I was expecting at least conversation about what I might be interested in trying out.

Since I'm new to the scene and the lifestyle I can only say what I've tried so far, what I've liked so far, and what I am willing to try in my near future. Most of which is based on open conversation with men I have met and some I have played with.

I did run into someone I know and that was unexpected and good. It was nice to see a face I recognized.

There was a moment which clarified things for me. A man I had been chatting with through naughty texts was having a conversation with a woman about having sent only PG rated pics to her. I was standing next to him as she walked off and I said under my breath, “Those aren't the kind you sent to me.” And he actually shushed me.

I looked at him as though to say, “Seriously?!!” LOL

I do get it. A lot of people in the lifestyle have professional lives to protect. I'm not an idiot. I just have a different outlook on my sex interests. I'm pretty open about a lot of things and often say things that surprise people. For instance when I left the party with my date I told everyone that we were leaving early so we could go have fun sex. Some laughed, some seemed shocked that I would say something like that out loud, and some were happy for us. I got a hug and a kiss from a couple I really liked.

As we drove home I was talking to my date about it. Since he's from Vegas and knows what Swingers Clubs are like when nobody is hiding, I had a different view of how things are done in an open environment. He thinks that the main problem with these mixers is that nothing actually gets done, other than meeting people for drinks and seeing who is who and letting them see me.

I think if it had been a different bar where such things as groping each other on the dance floor is perfectly fine, it would have been a different thing entirely.

I just didn't feel as though I could misbehave properly. And I do love to misbehave.

Being a button pushing flirt my first instinct was to pinch or slap as many asses as I could before I left. And once I realized how many people were in hiding, I really wanted to also do some very forward kissing as well. Lol But I saved all my sexual energy for my date who really really appreciated that.
Email Black Hole
Posted:May 8, 2017 3:48 am
Last Updated:Dec 21, 2017 2:55 am
So it's my understanding that a lot of men who send women emails get nothing but dead air in reply. Crickets? Perhaps your email was a victim of a Black Hole and it didn't reach it's target.

First I'd like to apologize for all of the women who can't manage a simply thank you at the very least. Then I'd like to point out that possibly you are choosing women who weren't raised to be polite.

My advice is to try older women. Also women who may not be the sexy porn star you thought you should have in your bed. Sorry guys, I get it, but you have to consider that reality is in play here. Not fantasy.

Consider the site you are on. Are you looking for a quick hook up or an actual date?

There are other sites out there, but as far as I can tell, the ones where you may meet your 'per' are generally going to be sites that charge a little money. That being said, I do believe in being in the right place at the right time.

Don't be discouraged. Don't give up. I'm not suggesting you stalk a woman's profile. That's just creepy. And I'm not saying you should be an ass by sending a specific woman multiple emails. That just comes off as a guy who's off his meds.

Also, please let me know if you would like me to review your profile. I'm happy to offer a little constructive help as long as you are open minded about it.

First Impressions
Posted:May 4, 2017 2:55 am
Last Updated:May 19, 2017 2:56 am
I know from experience that a lot of people tend to put a lot of weight behind first impressions. I don't do that for one rea...people who are nervous tend to be more uptight and that may not be who they really are.

I've found that quite often a 2nd encounter is needed in a relaxed atmosphere in order to determine if someone 'click's with your perality.

That being said, there is such a thing as instant attraction regardless of nerves.

I'm not talking about the guys who are just straight up hot looking. I generally stay clear of those as quite often it's all about them. That doesn't interest me at all. I'm nobody's cheerleader and never will be. I'm supportive but I'm not a fan club. There's a difference.

I've had Vanilla dates who really loved my perality (phone calls & texts), but they either didn't like my curvy body (tsk tsk tsk) or I was too nervous to be myself around them.

I got over that, lost some of my extra curves, and decided that guys who are body snobs just aren't worth my time. Trust me, if you aren't into short curvy Italian/Native American women, I'm not for you. I will never be skinny. Just a fact. If you can't drive on curves stay off the damn road. {=}

I'm sure most men are visual creatures. I understand that, but I learned from a very early age that looks are, of course, skin deep. Ugly attitude goes clear to the bone.

I haven't met many men who didn't instantly like me, but those that didn't really missed out on something interesting. And I know there are a lot of women out there who may not be hot porn stars, but have an awful lot to offer. Give them a chance or you are doomed to good looking mediocrity for the rest of your dating days.

A tip on choosing, let attitude and perality decide for you. I know from experience that if I walk into a room as though I'm a goddess, that's how I'm seen. And yes, attitude like that is very sexy. Confidence is sexy.

I was told once that I don't see myself as men see me. Well no. I have lived with my flaws my entire life and while sometimes those can be pushed aside to make room for sexy attitude, some days it's hard to get there. I'm not the only woman to struggle with this.

So on that note just give the woman you just met for coffee or a drink a real chance. Believe me, she's probably got hidden talents. ?*

Thanks for reading!
1 comment

To link to this blog (Wicker110) use [blog Wicker110] in your messages.

  Wicker110 57F
57 F
October 2018
Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat

Recent Visitors

Visitor Age Sex Date
secret83702 49M7/19
MrPeterson001 50M7/18
daypassions 60M7/10
63Dart 53M7/8
nazrat50 72/70C7/1
Nottheone2  47M7/1
libertine1961 57M6/27
Fireman4two 62M6/14
1Youngoldboy4U 58M6/12

Most Recent Comments by Others

Post Poster Post Date
Playlist Etiquette (9)dirtyoldfartmt
Dec 7, 2018 3:28 am
What I've Learned... (6)papis_baby_girl
Oct 6, 2018 3:56 pm
Give A Girl A Damn Minute (8)MissCinders
Aug 24, 2018 8:38 am
The Natural Flirt... (9)bioralpleasure
Aug 23, 2018 12:03 pm
Is Sex Just Physical? (5)lindoboy100
May 28, 2018 10:18 am
Reasons Why... (6)marriedcretin
Aug 4, 2017 8:38 pm
Am I Real, or Fake? (16)JustanIDguy
Jul 28, 2017 6:30 pm
It's Just Sex, Right? (8)alex208ID
Jul 3, 2017 6:19 am
What's In A Word? (11)JustanIDguy
Jun 16, 2017 4:50 pm
My First Swingers Meet & Greet (9)alex208ID
Jun 15, 2017 12:53 pm
Did you view my profile...or not? (22)Han54boat
May 26, 2017 8:48 am